Comments on: Love: the Sequel! (Part 2: Director’s commentary.)

By: Five new and one old | Letters have no Arms!

Five new and one old | Letters have no Arms! — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 17:22:15 +0000

[...] post from The Trephine discussing our tendency to narrativize our lives and act like we’re fictional characters in [...]

By: Linda

Linda — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 21:24:26 +0000

I love this article!

My divorce was, in fact, exactly this wake up call that you described! I got to the point of being so tired of people (”friends”) judging how I was handling my separation and pending divorce, that I actually made a LIST of the people I knew and their priority to me. I listed everyone I knew, family and close friends all the way to acquaintances and co-workers, and assigned a priority number to them based on how much I actually gave a shit about what they thought of me, my life, and and how I handled anything. #1’s were the most important: family and my best friends; #2’s were important: people who mattered to me and that I cared about; #3’s were people that were not super important, either I hadn’t seen them in a while, or didn’t keep in close touch with them and if they fell off the grid, so be it; and #4’s were the people I just could not give a shit about, if they decided I was an evil bitch from hell then they could think what they wanted, I could not be bothered.

This whole exercise was SO FREEING! I wholeheartedly encourage ANYONE to do it in their life at any time. It brought into focus that I can’t, and more importantly have no DESIRE TO, expend energy and time on every person in my life and caring about what they think about me. There are people I care about and those are the people that matter to me. Outside of that circle, I just can’t be bothered.

Be present in your life, care about what matters and make sure you understand what matters to you – and WHY.

By: Emma

Emma — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 14:18:54 +0000

I just stumbled upon your blog, and I’m so glad I did. All of this resonates with me, and I LOVE discovering writers who blog, as opposed to the many bloggers who write. Cheers!

By: surcey

surcey — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 04:45:17 +0000

Damn, girl.

By: Carolyn

Carolyn — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 01:34:12 +0000

Wow. This is the first post of yours I’ve read (I saw you linked at Five Star Friday) and I’m def subscribing. Glad to find such a great new read!

By: Nancy

Nancy — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 00:38:48 +0000

Amazing. You’ve summed up so much if my journey over the last few years in a beautful and eloquent post. Thank you.

By: Al_Pal

Al_Pal — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 23:26:26 +0000

Gah. Gorgeous.
Judging by comments, ’twas Undomestic Diva’s tweet that got me here.
Love.

Also? Really glad I hardly ever wear makeup, and thus can’t be “caught” without it. Heh.

By: Grumbebot

Grumbebot — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 22:57:11 +0000

I linked to you from Undomestic Diva’s twitter.
Thank you! This is what I needed to read NOW. This came at the right time for me. Thank you for writing it and reminding me that 100 years none of this will matter and what I should be paying attention to is me and my family.
Life isn’t about what others think of you; life is about what you think of you.

Again, Thank you so much. Your words have moved me.

By: Undomestic Diva

Undomestic Diva — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 22:12:19 +0000

I want to sit on comfy worn-in leather couches in a coffee shop with you, picking your brain and soaking up your insight over extra dry cappuccinos.

By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 17:19:01 +0000

Corinne, it’s nice that those who want it can have it as a book, but my understanding is that several people have had to stop hosting the speech online because of copyright issues, removing something gorgeous and smart from the Internet, which makes me really sad. There’s something unsettling about the fact that words said into open air by a guy who is no longer alive have become so proprietary, and may soon only be accessible to those who have a spare ten dollars. I also heard it was edited, which bothers me even more.

It just seems socially counterproductive to limit access to really good philosophy to those who can pay for it.