Comments on: The stages of divorce: Collect ‘em all!

By: Playboymommy

Playboymommy — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 05:04:36 +0000

While I am not lucky enough to be able to continue a friendship with my ex, I had tears streaming down my face when I read this. I read your other post about how you and your ex ARE able to remain friends and it made me really wish that I was able to do the same with mine. Even though he’s caused me more hurt than anyone else, he’s also the one that made me happier than anyone else for 10 years. It breaks my heart that I don’t have that person in my life, but neither of us are the same people we were during that 10 years and some of us handled it gracefully and became stronger for it and know that it was for the best, and some of us didn’t. I hurt and cried for a long time because I thought that we were “meant to be together”, but it is more than obvious to me that we were NOT I’m still lucky enough to remain close to his amazing family. He quit seeing/taking care of our two awesome boys 4 1/2 months ago, which angers me to no end, but we still go to his parent’s house for all holidays and see his mom way more than he does now. I wish I had this to read when I first got into that relationship, before I got married, and during and after our seperation and divorce. Either, way I have this now and will use it for the future. I honestly don’t really think I’ll be getting married again in the future, but that doesn’t mean I don’t still believe in love. Thank you so much for this wonderful post.

By: kim

kim — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 12:30:30 +0000

i’m at the verge of ending 9 years, 7 months of a relationship (not married) and this post gives me hope. i can make it. even though it seems like there’s no way some times… how long does it take to become a superheroine?

By: The Trephine › Love: the Sequel. (Part 3: “But wait … I don’t remember the last one being a porno.”)

Thu, 11 Feb 2010 08:43:49 +0000

[...] consider it a testament to the power of the superhero stage that I hadn’t even left Missouri before deciding that I was going to charm this boy with my [...]

By: The Trephine › Happy Old Year.

The Trephine › Happy Old Year. — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 12:25:23 +0000

[...] too. Because you offered so many great memories, I have decided that I am willing to overlook That Other Thing. (Don’t act like you don’t know what I’m talking about.) All of our troubles [...]

By: The Gnat's Trumpet

The Gnat's Trumpet — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 04:27:24 +0000

Wow! Wonderful writing. It was very moving to read about the experience of divorce from this perspective.

By: anne

anne — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 21:07:50 +0000

Brilliant, brilliant, and bravo!

I found you again via Shannon C., who specifically pointed this post in my direction. It’s been a year now since I left my ex; our dissolution was far different from yours, given that the relationship I was in was abusive, but all of this that you say? It’s true for me too.

Thank you so much for writing about it all so cleanly and clearly and truly.

By: The Trephine › Happy Monday! Here, have some metaphors.

The Trephine › Happy Monday! Here, have some metaphors. — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 08:19:42 +0000

[...] it.” It seems to me that since I really have nothing better to do, and I am currently in my superhero phase, I might as well become more [...]

By: Loralee

Loralee — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 03:57:58 +0000

I love this blog so much I want to do naughty things to it and get knocked up to trick it into marrying me.

(Don’t judge me)

By: Patricia

Patricia — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 23:44:05 +0000

Thank you! I just found out two weeks ago that I’ll be going through this myself…good to have a guidebook to follow. thank you again.

By: dani

dani — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 15:31:16 +0000

Welcome back! You are an inspiration right now and though I’m sorry about the circumstances that have brought you back here, I’ll take inspiration where I can get it.